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Please and Thank You

This Thanksgiving Day, my first without my mother, I’m taking a moment to address all those who made our life bearable as we witnessed her memories drift away as she gracefully accepted her fate due to Stage IV brain cancer. Read on… According to my Titi (auntie), my mother didn’t hesitate to ordered people around […]

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“Hi! I’m a Recovering Army Brat”

The day I turned 23 my military ID expired. In a few months I’d be put of college and off to work full time for a big aerospace and defense contractor thus my mother decided to not renew my credentials. Adapting to life as a civilian, as an outsider, was challenging. As the daughter of […]

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I’m Instafamous!!

Hi, Zach here. I got a feature in a very cool page called Former Fosters thanks to a referral from my friend Sputnik. They feature lovable pets who found their happy ending!!! Check out our stories and give FF a follow: View this post on Instagram This is the story of Zach — @zachtheintroverteddog — […]

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In Memoriam: Grandma Delia

My grandmother was a spectacular woman, a true warrior who stopped at nothing to keep her family safe and well fed. She was ahead of her time in ways that are easy to admire and hard to explain: she was fierce, a very confident and assertive piece of work that always spoke her mind. When […]

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Serial, Season 3: The Justice System

Sarah Koenig and Emmanuel Dzotsi set on a mission to explore the machinery that drives the judicial system in the United States. They banged on city doors, asking for an opportunity to record what goes on in our courthouses and justice centers. No one took them up on their offer except Cleveland, whose leadership only […]

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Complicated Bereavement

Disclaimer: Although my though process post my mother’s death has been understandably debilitating, I have not been diagnosed as having a complicated bereavement. If you are looking for information about clinical treatments for this disorder to help someone you know check out The Center for Complicated Grief website. There are many dimensions to grief, many […]

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Mrs Enginerd Project Zach

500 Followers!!!

Woop woop! Can you believe it? In less than a few months I have made over 670 friends on IG. 😱 This is an amazing feat for this very shy, bossy and introverted INTJ. Thank y’all for your support, love and attention. Dealing with my grandma’s brain cancer diagnosis, care and departure was ruff on […]

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F@%k Cancer, Part 7

Can’t. Used to. Was. Doesn’t. Loved. These are the words I never thought I would use to describe my mother at 63 years of age. So full of life a few months ago and now she is, for the most part, bed ridden and/or lethargic. She can barely speak, eat or drink. This brick house […]

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F@%k Cancer, Part 6

There’s always a calm before the storm. The tumor’s original scan. Isn’t it impressive? To think that unevenly shaped – multiform mass had caused all this drama! I can’t believe it’s already December. Wow! Never in a million years did I think mom would be in hospice care at this age, much less waiting for […]

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My Mom, The Colonel

Picture of my mom in front of an A-10, early 80s, courtesy of her friend Angelo of the CI Rangers. The toughest part of this cancer journey has been seeing my mom slowly deteriorate, an inevitable spiral that has forced me to reflect on who she was, and what she has accomplished. She’s a very […]