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Adulting Love and Marriage Mrs Enginerd

A Month of Saying “Yes”

W, my partner in crime, decided recently that life was too short to deprive those we love of our efforts; of our presence, love and understanding. He chose to say “yes” to every request that crossed his agenda, reserving some time to chill and explore how he felt after agreeing to experience new activities and […]

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Adulting Etiquette Love and Marriage Mrs Enginerd

The Power or Dissent

Neyt. Nein. No. Nee. Non. La. Iie. Nu. Mana. Nej. Nay. The word no is not just an acceptable answer, it’s also a complete sentence. It’s unapologetic. Brave. Bold. Powerful. Saying no is an art form in and of itself because it requires discipline, courage and deliberate actionable follow through. You can’t back down after […]

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Adulting F@%k Cancer Mrs Enginerd

Mayday! Mayday!

Bzzz. Bzzz. My Insta friend Cocoa texts me to ask for help with her seizure and cancer meds campaign. It’s 7:00 am on a Tuesday but I’m already awake; Zach has been barking intermittently since 4:55 am. The Ring side camera was on a rampage, chiming loudly and constantly even though the video showed no […]

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Adulting F@%k Cancer Love and Marriage Mrs Enginerd

Complicated Bereavement

Disclaimer: Although my though process post my mother’s death has been understandably debilitating, I have not been diagnosed as having a complicated bereavement. If you are looking for information about clinical treatments for this disorder to help someone you know check out The Center for Complicated Grief website. There are many dimensions to grief, many […]

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Layoff Mrs Enginerd

Pulling All The Stops

My friends became concerned as month four of the layoff train arrived at the station. When the journey started I had a lot of fuel and a couple of cars with very few baggage. At each destination, Santa Cruz, San Francisco and San Juan, I delivered most of the emotional baggage I was carrying but […]