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Embracing Imperfection

After almost four decades on this planet, I’ve come to believe that the worst compliment you can give a person or their work or appearance is telling them they are perfect. Why? Perfectionism borders on compulsion, on a desire to get things right without leaving room for refinement, for growth, for exceeding expectations. In a […]

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Unrequited Sacrifices

Taking out the trash.Fighting inner demons.Folding laundry.Slaying online bosses.Humoring crazy in-laws.Buying the best pet food and treats.Ordering pizza sans your favorite toppings. There are so many things we reluctantly do, day in and day out, for those we love. Little things that take time and effort, and consume us to the point we forget we […]

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Unlucky At Love

Financial and career success. ✔ College education (including multiple degrees) ✔ Strong nuclear families. ✔ Health and wisdom. ✔ Worldly view. ✔ Food on the table and a roof over our heads. ✔ Romantic partnership bliss 🚫 All three remaining generations of my maternal line suffer from the same ailment: They are awfully unlucky at […]

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The Odd [Cousine] Couple

Our family can be best described as the introvert Brady bunch, if the Brady’s had been first cousins instead of a blended set of siblings. Together, the six of us learned about life, love and the pursuits of nerds from our maternal (and in one case paternal) branch of the family, spending most of our […]

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Death Becomes Her

Throughout my life, the only constant was my grandmother, Delia. Bravely, she took on the role of guardian and caregiver while my mother finished Officer Training School and other responsibilities, thousands of miles away from me. Fort Huachuca had been proven to not be the best place to raise a child, and after a few […]

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Challenging for Challenging’s Sake

Unless you are a teenager testing boundaries to discover your path, or a person on a journey of self discovery in which all the correct answers were revealed to you by the gods themselves, stop challenging others just for kicks. Don’t contest because they don’t fit your mold of what an Anime fan should be […]

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About MrsEnginerd

When I started writing under the Mrsenginerd pseudonym I was in the middle of a career shift. My employer had done a reduction in workforce exercise that had left me jobless a month after my 10th anniversary with the company (The Layoff). As a married woman with no kids, there was a lot of free […]

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Phone/Text/IM or Visit a Friend

Ever wonder why people keep throwing parties and inviting you, even when you RSVP and don’t show up? When you are doing a really good ghosting job but they don’t take the hint? Let me shed some light on their persistence: People are social creatures. We need the warmth of human touch. Intimacy. Compassion. Comfort. […]

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Be The Guide

Fact: My husband stumbles about the world clueless. He doesn’t know what he wants, where he is going, and much less how to get what he needs to solve for the other two. Every time a priest mentions in a wedding homily that the wife must follow the husband my spidey senses tingle. What if […]

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In the Search of Karma Points

During the last month my family has donated, gifted, sold or tossed items that no longer brought us joy, as Marie Kondo would say, in the hopes that they’d become purposeful again. The poor things had been idle for so long, relegated to the deepest and darkest storage corners that they must have felt neglected. […]