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The Subtle Power of Influence

We all have influence. Every interaction, every piece of advice we deal, shapes others in ways that forever change the course of history. From a polite greeting to a bad deed, our choices impact others, transforming life for better or worse. It is in these unforseen moments of kindness and cruelty that we touch and […]

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We Lost Dear Friends on New Year’s Day

Five years ago, I released a post about Jesús and Kate’s murder: I Lost a Friend on New Year’s Day. Writing about their life, love and friendship allowed me to pay tribute not only to them but to everyone touched by this tragedy. Words cannot accurately describe the magnitude of our sorrow but it is […]

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Deliberate and Specific

Bold and brave,Kind and compassionate,Articulate and fierce,Strong and unwavering,Chaotic yet organized. These are the traits of a warrior,Of an entrepreneurial soul,Of a resilient spirit. Don’t let failure define you.

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Embracing Imperfection

After almost four decades on this planet, I’ve come to believe that the worst compliment you can give a person or their work or appearance is telling them they are perfect. Why? Perfectionism borders on compulsion, on a desire to get things right without leaving room for refinement, for growth, for exceeding expectations. In a […]

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Unrequited Sacrifices

Taking out the trash.Fighting inner demons.Folding laundry.Slaying online bosses.Humoring crazy in-laws.Buying the best pet food and treats.Ordering pizza sans your favorite toppings. There are so many things we reluctantly do, day in and day out, for those we love. Little things that take time and effort, and consume us to the point we forget we […]

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Unlucky At Love

Financial and career success. ✔ College education (including multiple degrees) ✔ Strong nuclear families. ✔ Health and wisdom. ✔ Worldly view. ✔ Food on the table and a roof over our heads. ✔ Romantic partnership bliss 🚫 All three remaining generations of my maternal line suffer from the same ailment: They are awfully unlucky at […]

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The Odd [Cousine] Couple

Our family can be best described as the introvert Brady bunch, if the Brady’s had been first cousins instead of a blended set of siblings. Together, the six of us learned about life, love and the pursuits of nerds from our maternal (and in one case paternal) branch of the family, spending most of our […]

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Death Becomes Her

Throughout my life, the only constant was my grandmother, Delia. Bravely, she took on the role of guardian and caregiver while my mother finished Officer Training School and other responsibilities, thousands of miles away from me. Fort Huachuca had been proven to not be the best place to raise a child, and after a few […]

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Challenging for Challenging’s Sake

Unless you are a teenager testing boundaries to discover your path, or a person on a journey of self discovery in which all the correct answers were revealed to you by the gods themselves, stop challenging others just for kicks. Don’t contest because they don’t fit your mold of what an Anime fan should be […]

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About MrsEnginerd

When I started writing under the Mrsenginerd pseudonym I was in the middle of a career shift. My employer had done a reduction in workforce exercise that had left me jobless a month after my 10th anniversary with the company (The Layoff). As a married woman with no kids, there was a lot of free […]