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Interrupted

I want the world to stop. To remain as she last saw it. To hover, unchanged, between what was and what could have been. I need back all those minutes with her, To enjoy the booming laughter; The lovely smile that always grew wider and brighter when I entered the room. A part of me […]

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Ask Away

Got a crush? Let them know you are interested. Need assistance? Tell those around you. Job sucks? Network to seek career opportunities. Don’t have a network? Cold call professionals in your interest areas to figure out next steps. Feeling alone? Reach out to support groups and alliances. Show up to a meeting or gathering. Missing […]

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Stuck In The Middle

Life almost never works out as expected. By the time I turned 40, the last thing I thought I was going to be a DINK with a special needs doggo and unemployed. A few weeks before the big ascent into the euphemistical 4th floor, the job materialized. My first paycheck served as a much needed […]

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The Power or Dissent

Neyt. Nein. No. Nee. Non. La. Iie. Nu. Mana. Nej. Nay. The word no is not just an acceptable answer, it’s also a complete sentence. It’s unapologetic. Brave. Bold. Powerful. Saying no is an art form in and of itself because it requires discipline, courage and deliberate actionable follow through. You can’t back down after […]

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The Subtle Power of Influence

We all have influence. Every interaction, every piece of advice we deal, shapes others in ways that forever change the course of history. From a polite greeting to a bad deed, our choices impact others, transforming life for better or worse. It is in these unforseen moments of kindness and cruelty that we touch and […]

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We Lost Dear Friends on New Year’s Day

Five years ago, I released a post about Jesús and Kate’s murder: I Lost a Friend on New Year’s Day. Writing about their life, love and friendship allowed me to pay tribute not only to them but to everyone touched by this tragedy. Words cannot accurately describe the magnitude of our sorrow but it is […]

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Deliberate and Specific

Bold and brave,Kind and compassionate,Articulate and fierce,Strong and unwavering,Chaotic yet organized. These are the traits of a warrior,Of an entrepreneurial soul,Of a resilient spirit. Don’t let failure define you.

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Embracing Imperfection

After almost four decades on this planet, I’ve come to believe that the worst compliment you can give a person or their work or appearance is telling them they are perfect. Why? Perfectionism borders on compulsion, on a desire to get things right without leaving room for refinement, for growth, for exceeding expectations. In a […]

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Unrequited Sacrifices

Taking out the trash.Fighting inner demons.Folding laundry.Slaying online bosses.Humoring crazy in-laws.Buying the best pet food and treats.Ordering pizza sans your favorite toppings. There are so many things we reluctantly do, day in and day out, for those we love. Little things that take time and effort, and consume us to the point we forget we […]

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Unlucky At Love

Financial and career success. ✔ College education (including multiple degrees) ✔ Strong nuclear families. ✔ Health and wisdom. ✔ Worldly view. ✔ Food on the table and a roof over our heads. ✔ Romantic partnership bliss 🚫 All three remaining generations of my maternal line suffer from the same ailment: They are awfully unlucky at […]