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Adulting Love and Marriage Mrs Enginerd

A Month of Saying “Yes”

W, my life partner in crime, decided recently that life was too short to deprive those we love of our efforts; of our presence, love and understanding. He chose to say “yes” to every request that crossed his agenda, reserving some time to chill and explore how he felt after agreeing to experience new activities […]

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The 9th House On The Right

There’s been one constant in my life; one undeniable and certain truth. Whenever I was feeling blue, happy or plain homesick there was one place in the world I could count on to remain the same: Grandma’s. It was 1960something… Layo and Delia settle on a one story, 1000 sq ft, cement and rebar beauty […]

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Siempre…

Siempre hay alguien mas ajorao que uno, con mas prisa, a pesar de no tener rumbo a dirección. Es fascinante ver a la gente adoptar rutinas que no les sirven más que para esclavizarlos. No tienen tiempo ni para pensar y terminan delegando sus “thought processes” a sus líderes políticos, religiosos y hasta a sus […]

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Fire Can Be Made to Rest

Writer’s block. Layoffs. Grief. Solace. Enlightenment. Failure. A pandemic… These are prime examples of opportunities to just be; to tame the passions that may drive us to wander carelessly in a world full of promise and uncertainty. More often than not the mind needs a break from our duties and daily machinations to see life […]

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Adulting En español Etiquette

#NotFunny

If the joke makes fun of someone, it’s not funny. If the well meaning conversation turns into ridicule, it’s not pleasant. If the game makes someone uncomfortable or ashamed, it’s not fun. We are in a constant state of evolution. What used to be acceptable in the past may not be in the future. Learn […]

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Adulting Love and Marriage Mrs Enginerd

The Simple Things

Alcapurrias. The dog snoring, cozied up to the newly remodeled fireplace. Home Depot… There are so many things to be grateful for, to celebrate, even after losing so much, so quickly. Up until now my mom’s death had sunk me into a deep and profound solitude from which very few people could rouse me. I […]

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Big Heart, Big Guilt

More. There’s always something more that could’ve been done. A larger donation. A bigger effort. A grander gesture. A better plan or result… It’s hard to not feel guilty when your imagination can think of a 1000 different ways to raise more funds. To engage more people. To advocate for the cause. To heighten an […]

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Adulting F@%k Cancer Love and Marriage Mrs Enginerd

Interrupted

I want the world to stop. To remain as she last saw it. To hover, unchanged, between what was and what could have been. I need back all those minutes with her, To enjoy the booming laughter; The lovely smile that always grew wider and brighter when I entered the room. A part of me […]

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Adulting Etiquette Love and Marriage

Ask Away

Got a crush? Let them know you are interested. Need assistance? Tell those around you. Job sucks? Network to seek career opportunities. Don’t have a network? Cold call professionals in your interest areas to figure out next steps. Feeling alone? Reach out to support groups and alliances. Show up to a meeting or gathering. Missing […]

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Adulting Mrs Enginerd Nerd Stuff

Fail Quickly and Often…

Never give up! Never surrender! – Galaxy Quest