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Information Finds Me

Numbers and information are my trades; I am a wizard with numbers and great at finding out stuff, like the CIA or NSA, but with limited resources. Life is about probability and pattern recognition, which is why it is easy to me to predict behavior just as easily as it is to project gains or […]

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The Enginerds: Making Trick or Treating Fair Since 2006

Equality and fairness have been underlying themes in my upbringing. This is owed in part to my mother who valued having happy kids that understood life wouldn’t always favor us. Halloween candy, back in my day, was handed out in amounts that favored the best costume and ranked kids based on perceived effort. Becausw of […]

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Saint David of Begnaud

Puerto Ricans have an excellent sense of humor, especially during their own humanitarian crises. When this picture first appeared, the islandhad been hit by a category 5 hurricane, María, which devastated the island on September 20th 2017. As they weather the aftermath that left over 4500 people dead – from causes attributable to the lack […]

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Natural Disaster Fatigue

Hurricane Harvey in Houston. Hurricane Irma in the USVI, Virgin Islands (VI), PR, Florida and the east coast of the USA. Category 4 Hurricane María decimating the USVI, the same VI as before and PR. The 7.1 earthquake in Mexico. Forrest fires up and down the Pacific North West. Between fundraisers, donation drop offs, prayers, […]

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Temporal, Temporal…

In Puerto Rico we have a very unique name for Atlantic based storms: temporales. We even have a song dedicated to the impact they cause in our immediate lives, the uncertainty of being in the way of the eye of a hurricane. There is something magical about that word because it describes both the temperamental […]

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The Problem with Grief

Life plays out like a tragedy. In the end, we all die. The journey plays out like a novel, written by the hand of the indelible gods; the entropy of our lives resolved by eternal slumber. Those who remain alive, left behind by those they loved and have risen to the heavens, have to deal […]

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PTSD Doesn’t Discriminate: Anyone Can Develop It

I’ve gotten some smart ass clap backs from people assuming that a middle class person of means cannot and should not develop or have post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) so I felt the need to set the record straight. Fifty percent of people in the USA will experience first hand trauma, with women more likely […]

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#Adulting Sucks: What now?

Most of my time is spent talking about, writing or listening to my peeps about the pitfalls and peaks of adulting. My conclusion: We are all in a collective slump. Yes, there are some cool things happening – kids, weddings, promotions, per adoptions, vacations – but the underlying feeling is that society’s expectations aren’t meeting […]

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Death Defines You

There are only two things in life that are certain, death and taxes. I’ve tried defining other certainties, aside from bodily functions, and this seems to be fairly accurate. Between all the baby announcements, weddings and birthdays, a few untimely and sudden deaths have sneaked their way into my life. After the dust settled and everyone […]

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You Can Disagree With an Opinion and Be Wrong

I’ve spent the entirety of my life on this planet educating myself, and being educated by my peers and family, about every single subject that crossed our paths. Great care was taken by my elders to discuss any issue -past, present and future – that was deemed important and necessary to have a vetted view […]