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Adulting Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

You Can Disagree With an Opinion and Be Wrong

I’ve spent the entirety of my life on this planet educating myself, and being educated by my peers and family, about every single subject that crossed our paths. Great care was taken by my elders to discuss any issue -past, present and future – that was deemed important and necessary to have a vetted view […]

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Adulting Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

“WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE?”

If you ever want to give an introvert a panic attack, ask them this question. Go ahead, try it! It is by far the most horrible question you can ask the likes of me, even worse than the dreaded “Do you have kids?” question. Why, you ask? Because there is no way for us to […]

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Adulting Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

5 Outdated Well Meaning Pieces of Advice

For a couple of years now the advancements in technology have rendered obsolete a few safety and etiquette rules that most of us were given as children. It amazes me how much things have changed in such a short time and how much more change will be thrown our way before we reach old age. […]

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Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

The Royal “We”

When I was learning to speak and write in English my mom taught me about a concept that is called the royal We. The idea is very ingenious and was coined by monarchs and persons of high influence to speak on behalf of the organization, estate, state or government they represent when in fact they are […]

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Adulting Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

Illusion v. Expectations

Every so often a post pops up on social media about people’s expectations. In many cases, the point of the message is as follows: If your expectations are too high, and no one meets them, lower them but if they constantly exceed they may be too low. How can you decide which one is the […]

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Adulting Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

“Do You Want Me To Interpret or Translate?”

The first time I noticed the difference between a translator and an interpreter was during the 1996 Miss Universe pageant. Alicia Machado, Miss Venezuela, was answering the questions in Spanish but what the assigned translator said in English was a better, more polished interpretation of what she had mentioned. The realization that the person communicating […]

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Adulting Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

The Lost Art of Asking and Answering Questions Effectively

We all have pet peeves. As an introvert, mine is asking a binary answer question and getting anything but a simple yes or no answer. Why must people unload on me their entire thought process or worse, answer my question with another one. Ugh! Yes or no. Yes or no! I didn’t ask for your […]

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Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

My Beef With The Facebook Newsfeed 

You’d think the pretentious stories about how husbands are perfect and how precious people’s children are would be the reason why I have a beef with my Facebook’s newsfeed but this isn’t the reason I created this post. My beef with the newsfeed is that the algorithm decides for you in what order you will […]

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Love and Marriage Mrs Enginerd

You Can’t Love Someone That Doesn’t Want to Be Loved, Part II

A few musings ago I posted a poem with the same title as this article and although it captures most of what I feel, there is something to be said about the subject of unrequited love. It is not unreasonable to argue that in most cases, from divorce to suicide pacts, the end of a […]

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Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

It’s All Relative

Time. Riches. Joy. Sadness. Respect. Privilege. Equality. They are all relative. Why? These concepts are all man made constructs  (yes, I blame man for these) to quantify and qualify the way we live our lives inside the societies we have created. Every culture has its own way of measuring these constructs. That’s where most of […]