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The Royal “We”

When I was learning to speak and write in English my mom taught me about a concept that is called the royal We. The idea is very ingenious and was coined by monarchs and persons of high influence to speak on behalf of the organization, estate, state or government they represent when in fact they are […]

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Adulting Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

Illusion v. Expectations

Every so often a post pops up on social media about people’s expectations. In many cases, the point of the message is as follows: If your expectations are too high, and no one meets them, lower them but if they constantly exceed they may be too low. How can you decide which one is the […]

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Adulting Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

“Do You Want Me To Interpret or Translate?”

The first time I noticed the difference between a translator and an interpreter was during the 1996 Miss Universe pageant. Alicia Machado, Miss Venezuela, was answering the questions in Spanish but what the assigned translator said in English was a better, more polished interpretation of what she had mentioned. The realization that the person communicating […]

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Adulting Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

The Lost Art of Asking and Answering Questions Effectively

We all have pet peeves. As an introvert, mine is asking a binary answer question and getting anything but a simple yes or no answer. Why must people unload on me their entire thought process or worse, answer my question with another one. Ugh! Yes or no. Yes or no! I didn’t ask for your […]

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Etiquette Love and Marriage Mrs Enginerd

A Strong Woman Doesn’t Need To Be Handled

“I can handle a strong woman.” That’s the hardest statement to dissect as a female because it implies that strong women must be handled. Handled by definition means to manage, feel or manipulate with the hands. An assertive, focused and driven individual is not something you want to manage or manipulate with the hands. In […]

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Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

My Beef With The Facebook Newsfeed 

You’d think the pretentious stories about how husbands are perfect and how precious people’s children are would be the reason why I have a beef with my Facebook’s newsfeed but this isn’t the reason I created this post. My beef with the newsfeed is that the algorithm decides for you in what order you will […]

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Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

It’s All Relative

Time. Riches. Joy. Sadness. Respect. Privilege. Equality. They are all relative. Why? These concepts are all man made constructs  (yes, I blame man for these) to quantify and qualify the way we live our lives inside the societies we have created. Every culture has its own way of measuring these constructs. That’s where most of […]

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Etiquette Mrs Enginerd

#BlackLivesMatter

I know what many are thinking, #AllLivesMatter is more accurate. Right? Wrong! Check yourself in a mirror and adjust yourself because your privilege is showing. *Gasp!* Many white leaders decided to detract from the #BlackLivesMatter campaign to claim #alllivesmatter because they fear that for once in their lifetimes their ignorance about race and racial discrimination […]

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Etiquette Layoff Mrs Enginerd

I Used To Be…

I used to be strong and brave, dauntless even. Very few things in life scared me and if someone corrected me, I thanked them for the knowledge (after corroborating that in fact they were correct). I used to write long poems, ballads and odes, testaments to my teenage angst and bewilderment. I don’t know when […]

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Etiquette Mrs Enginerd Wrestling Infertility

My Beef With Religious Views of Women

I was born a female human. I can’t/don’t want to change this. I can only learn to live with it and the limitations religious views and social/cultural norms yave placed on my gender. Recently, a few conversations with friends have revolved around the second class citizenship of women and how they are viewed worldwide. This […]