Flight. Fight. Flee.
There are no other choices when confronted with trauma, with a dangerous and life threatening situation. Each occurrence elicits a unique reaction. Each reaction has its own flow of consequences. The difference between living to tell the tale or becoming a cautionary one.
However, what happens when the events affect us because someone we love has gone through a horrific ordeal? Are we allowed to grieve? To feel just as confused or angry as the survivor? What about circumstances in which the person disappears or dies before we can say our piece/peace? What are we allowing ourselves to believe?
Dr Philip Taft addresses these questions and many more in regard to complicated and ambiguous grief during The Vanished podcast’s March 7th episode. It’s a must listen for those who, like me, have lost a loved one to crime, suicide, unpredictable illness and/or accidents. A great opportunity to reflect and learn about the missing, the lost, and the effect their departure and uncertain circumstances have on those who they leave behind.
For those fortunate enough to not have experienced this, Dr. Taft also talks about COVID-19 and what we have had to give up as individuals to survive during this pandemic. If you miss high fives, warm hugs and parties, you are not alone. As always, we are here to provide friendly advice to weather the storm. The light at the end of the tunnel shines brighter.
We are all in this together.