“At least you have a house…”

Please. I beg y’all. Don’t confuse my complaints about the “list of items that still need to be taken care of by the builder” with ungratefulness. Telling anyone in my family that “at least you have a home” minimizes the entire ordeal and what is left of it. The fact that all these open items cost money and great inconvenience to our family should not be overlooked.

Yes, we can afford a home when a lot of people are homeless. And yes, maybe you would be bursting at the seams just to have these nuances as your problems but that doesn’t give you permission to “put us in our place” or remind us we should be grateful to your deity of choice. You asked me how the house was coming along. I didn’t volunteer the information to be critiqued or questioned. Sadly the situation is far from perfect and for a hefty investment we are peeved; the next steps left may include suing for damages, an action we rather not pursue. Never a dull moment in this household, especially when the open jobs are being completed slooooowllyyyy.

Maybe society has taught us the wrong quips to give as a reaction to someone’s news. Maybe we aren’t thinking and just blurt out what we think we should comment or state. In the end, I expect more from my peers because I can give them more than the preprogrammed responses. If I can take time from my busy life to consider you perhaps you all can return the favor? Can people stop trying to make me eat humble pie? Your serving of judgement leaves a bad taste in my mouth. 🤔🤔🤔🤔 Inconceivable!

For once I would like to hear my peers congratulate me because I have achieved and persevered, not be passively aggressively handed my ass to me because I aspired to more and it didn’t work out 100%. So what if there are only three of us living in 2600 sq ft of space? My dog and family deserve to be comfortable too. 😉 And while we are at it, don’t assume we need to fill the space with children either. With an upcoming opportunity to go back to school and get matching MBAs for the wall, I can’t imagine making things more complex by getting knocked up and/or having to postpone graduation. Call me selfish but this is not my path, our path, for now. This is our happily ever after. 😎😄

Feel free to do as your heart desires. I promise not to shame you and to support you as you see fit. That’s what friends should be for, anyway…