A Decade of Resiliency

Ten years ago, in May of 2025, I started this blog out of a need to communicate my thoughts and experiences fresh out of my first career layoff.

At the time, it served as a vessel to collect historical data on my progress as a bereft human who, for much of her early adulthood, feared that the plans so methodically crafted throughout college would never come to pass. When the prophecy fulfilled itself, all that was left to do was mourn the losses, accept defeat, and rebuild.

To be fair, that first decade out in the real world taught me that to be an effective leader, one must be able to empathize with the weirdest and most outrageous circumstances. That the average person’s life can become a hit parade of unbelievable hardship and grief due to the disappointment of unmet needs and expectations.

When everyone demands to be considered and accommodated, ideologies must converge to provide sustainable solutions…

I can’t effectively take care of the people in my life if they don’t see the benefits of being taken care of. I can’t be thought of as a leader if no one let’s go of their egos and lets me lead them down the path to safety and comfort.

Unfortunately, sometimes people don’t want to be saved, no matter how much they need to be protected, even from themselves.

After layoff #2 which forced a switch from aerospace to tech – and back again a la Bilbo Baggins – I discovered that whatever dreams we have for ourselves, life and the gods have their own plans. Statististics and probabilities intersect to provide us with opportunities for growth and wisdom at times when we are not ready to receive them. I’ve been blessed to have friends and family point out to me what I’m made of and what I’ll never need to become. Humility has gotten me closer to success than any big endeavor ever has.

As we look towards the future, as uncertain and winding a path as it looks, let us concentrate on the things we can change and can learn to overcome. Save resources. Reuse as much as you can, including knowledge and success frames. Nurture the relationships that make you feel safe and loved and spend less time and energy converting the non-believers.

I can’t thank y’all enough for reading through these posts and walking alongside as time flies by to reveal more mysteries than I was prepared to solve in a lifetime.

Enjoy!